“Show your face everywhere” is wrong. Choosing where to participate is also a big step.

You get invited to various gatherings and parties, don't you? I think it depends on the number of people you associate with, but most people probably receive some kind of invitation daily. However, if you go to all of them, your body won't be able to keep up, right?

At first, I was told to 'show your face at any event.' I hear this phrase in many places, but in reality, it's just a thoughtless strategy, like 'even a bad shot can hit if you fire enough times.'

Many of the places I showed up to often turned out to be unavoidable, not fun, and just a source of stress for me. If only I could reduce these wasted 'events,' how much money and time I would have saved…

So this time, I'm going to write about how to distinguish between events you should attend and events you can decide not to attend. Choosing the places you go to will inevitably lead to creating comfortable relationships.

What you should consider here is the 'reason for going.'

You should carefully consider why you want to go there, or why you should go. Is it for enjoyment, networking, sales to get work, or an important place for communication and information sharing? If your purpose isn't clear, nothing will come of going.

If your purpose or reason isn't defined, for work, the probability of matching as a business partner decreases, and for enjoyment, you'll just end up tired if you go without a clear reason. You might even feel uncomfortable. If you have a purpose or reason, your actions and results will change even if you go to the same event.

Something might happen if I go. This is inefficient. You should think more carefully.

How many times have you gone to similar events, interacted with how many people, and how many of those interactions have led to good relationships? In the end, only about 10% of them result in a connection.

You shouldn't think that you met 10% of the people because you went to many events. The moment you think that, you're guaranteed to spend even more wasted time in the future.

Instead,how can I meet these 10% of people precisely?you should think and act.

First,the reason for goinglet's consider.

It's important to set clear goals. Then, consider whether your purpose can be achieved at the event you're attending. If you want to have fun, consider whether the event seems likely to satisfy you.

For example, it's good to ask the person who invited you what kind of people will be there. Also, understand who the inviter is in the first place, and casually ask what the party itself is about.

If you think it's not worth going at that point, it's usually not worth going. If your purpose and goal aren't clear, and you go without knowing if they can be fulfilled, it's just a gamble. It's better to go to another event during that time where you might be able to achieve your goal, even a little. It's many times better to spend that time on more important people or your family.

Don't say 'I'll go if I can,' but clearly state that you cannot go.

On the other hand, if you have a clear purpose and only go to events that you judge to be worthwhile, you will meet more good people.The people you want to meet will also be happily accepting of that place.

By the way, invitations from close friends are different. They will unconditionally satisfy you, and if you simply want to go, you should go. It's already decided from the start that it's a place you can enjoy.

By making your own sound judgments and attending events, people you can trust will gather around you. Since you are properly engaging with relationships and networks that excite and satisfy you, the desired circle will naturally form around you.

Building relationships and networks is not random. There's a lot of time you don't need to spend. It's something you can control yourself. Instead of going out of your way to attend meaningless events, you could have spent that time on more meaningful things. There's no need to waste time.

And most importantly, it's about having a reason to attend various events. It's about thinking about the purpose and goal of attending that event. If there's a necessity, the events you're invited to will also become meaningful.

Next time you're invited to a party, drinking gathering, or networking event, instead of thinking 'maybe something will happen if I go', let's properly consider what will happen if you go. By 'sifting' in this way, your relationships will become refined.