Laugh and cry. What is the ‘right’ everyone possesses to truly ‘live happily’?

We had home parties almost every day.

Whenever something happened, we'd gather at home and prepare the barbecue set.
We'd fill the fridge with beer and Sprite, and put on some music.
Then, in an instant, it would become the freest place in the world.

There was nothing more we could wish for anywhere.

America's West Coast. Los Angeles.
There were always two Mexican single mothers and us.

The two Mexican women were our friend's host family.
They always invited us to fun activities and always welcomed us with a smile.
Even though they were already of a good age, they'd get excited at clubs and ask when we should go out and play.
Above all, they loved making noise and having fun with everyone.

We had home parties all the time, but the members were always different.

Studying abroad is always about meeting new people.
Friends would leave one after another, and new friends would arrive.

Whenever there was someone new, we'd invite them to hang out and bring them along.

On this day too, several new friends had arrived.

Among those new friends, there was one Japanese person.
She was a beautiful woman who seemed like she'd quickly become popular.

However, at that time, she was a bit different from us.
It's not so much that his personality is different, but rather that he's started to be extremely considerate.

That might certainly be true.

We were indeed, in our youthful exuberance, playing a bit too aggressively.

After all, every time, it was like this,

or like this.

We take the advice that we were a bit too boisterous seriously.

But in reality, it seems our new friend isn't so much unable to fit in with the atmosphere as he is being overly considerate.
He's desperately serving meat to everyone, bringing beer, to the point where you might mistake him for a waiter!
And no one present at the time wanted that kind of service.

He's not shy or anything, he's just constantly being overly considerate of those around him.
He was a good person.
I think he's very Japanese, or rather, typically Japanese.

People are always living while gauging someone else's mood.
Am I upsetting that person? How am I being perceived?
Certainly, these are natural things, and skills one should have as part of social life.

But there's one thing we must understand.

By learning to endure, everyone is abandoning the rights they are given.
What are these rights?

The right to say you're sad when you're sad, and to laugh heartily when you're happy.

Originally, no one should obstruct that right, and it's not something someone can tell you to stop doing.
We have the right to laugh and cry with all our might from the very beginning.

However, social life is complex; it tells us to laugh when we're in pain, and to hold back when we want to laugh.
Our rights are hindered by the community, and we are forced to endure.

But that's only when we absolutely have to.

However, a new friend is concerned about someone next to them, as if this were a 'forbidden place'.
I couldn't help but feel that we had suppressed our 'right to laugh and cry' so much that we'd forgotten when to use it.

"Yes, that's it."

We talked it over, and she stopped 'serving' more meat.
When I poured her a drink, she swayed and we drank it together.
After that, we talked, and before we knew it, things got lively.

Then, without any prior arrangement, the Mexican mother took her child away.
As a result, before we knew it, we were talking while laughing heartily (rolling with laughter).

We live our lives caring too much about others.

This extends to times when we're allowed to act freely, and sometimes we lose sight of where to let loose.
Everyone forgets when to open their hearts and just keeps bottling things up.

If she had continued to act like an izakaya staff member, she would have gone home with only 'I'm tired' left.
If we continue like that, losing our outlet, we might eventually reach our breaking point.

Originally, we should laugh heartily when we want to laugh, and cry when we want to cry.
There's no need to be so dedicated that you don't even realize that 'someday' is the right time.
If everyone lived a little more boldly, no one would be troubled.

When you enjoy, enjoy to the fullest. When you laugh, laugh with all your might.
When you're sad, it's okay to cry, and when you want to be pampered, it's okay to be pampered.

But in reality, the kinder a person is, the more easily they get hurt, and the stronger a person is, the more they cry in the shadows.
Somehow, I feel like the world has become a difficult place.

By the way, the banquet continued until morning.

In the end, we got completely drunk and don't remember when everyone went home.
Everyone seems to have gone home in the morning, but did someone come to pick them up?

However, when I met her at school a few days later and said 'Let's hang out again!', she was very enthusiastic.
As a result, we ended up hanging out together every time.

I sincerely thought it was good that our favorite place didn't become a 'tiring' place for her.