When I look at SNS, I sometimes see discussions about dealing with certain situations not by legal means or fighting, but by understanding each other through words. However, there are many people who cannot understand each other or communicate through words.

For example, even if we fight with sound arguments, if the other party pushes their own opinions without listening at all, there's nothing we can do. No matter who the other party is, the side desperately trying to engage is simply turned away, and that's the end of it.

If you keep talking patiently, their heart might still open. However, that would consume several years of time. You can't be prepared for that unless you have a very close relationship, can you? Time is finite.

Actually, in business, such situations occur, and in the past, some people often used such tactics. In various consultations, the other party would continuously abandon the discussion and try to push their own opinions without yielding an inch. In such cases, either we give in, or we dissolve the discussion without yielding ourselves. Because the conversation won't come to a conclusion.

You might think, 'Are there really such people?' But yes, there are. The effort required to deal with such people is immense. It's no joke. I think there are more meaningful ways to spend time.

Arguments don't work with someone who has abandoned the discussion.

In other words, no matter how much you try to argue with someone who has abandoned the discussion, you won't find a common ground. This outcome is especially likely if the other person is ultimately childish and immature. Rational adults cannot win against ultimate children.

Moreover, such people believe themselves to be 'smart adults.' They don't think they've abandoned the discussion; rather, despite practically attacking, they hold the value of 'I've logically defeated them!'

However, anyone can do that – throwing opinions without listening to the other party, if they abandon the discussion. If you keep talking, you can overpower them. Knowing this, I myself sometimes used the method of continuously pushing only my own theories until the other party gave in, thereby overpowering them (I don't use it now, lol). It's just a test of endurance.

There was a video somewhere about a rental dispute in China, where one person pretended to be hit and fell down on their own. The other person was momentarily confused because they hadn't hit them, but the next moment, that person also dramatically fell down on their own. The first person who fell, realizing this, left in exasperation. Unfortunately, this is how it is.

To put it extremely, even if you try to resolve something through discussion, if the other party comes at you with the intent to commit a crime and hits you, there's nothing you can do. You either run away or hit back to make them submit, right? At that point, it's a situation that can no longer be resolved through discussion. And even in normal life, such things often happen depending on the person.

On X (formerly Twitter) and other SNS, there are also people who don't respond at all to replies with sound arguments, but instead keep stating only their own opinions elsewhere. In this way, there's always the option to close your ears to discussion and eternally state only your own opinion. The same applies offline. In such cases, truly nothing you do will get through. Time spent engaging often goes to waste.

If you realize the other party is impossible to communicate with, it's better for both sides to rely on means other than words.

First, it's good to talk to the other party and try to engage in discussion. Discussion is, of course, not a bad thing, so you should try to discuss as much as possible. However, if you realize that discussion doesn't work with the other party, at that moment, it's better to consult a professional.

If something has been done to you, taking appropriate legal action will resolve it. From the other party's perspective, they likely won't want to engage in such a dispute again, so they probably won't say anything further, and in many cases, they won't repeat similar mistakes. They only realize it when it causes actual harm to their own life.

If it's a business matter, I apologize for speaking from experience, but it's better to cut ties as soon as possible to avoid wasting time. Applying the concept of 'cutting losses,' it was easier to succeed by forgetting the time and effort spent so far and immediately severing the relationship. Certainly, if I were a better negotiator, I might have been able to manage it, but in my case, I felt it was faster to cut ties and move on.

In the end, it just results in a waste of time for both parties. When legal action is taken, it seems there are things the other party only realizes when they themselves are hurt. There was even an example of someone who grew after such an incident and said that if it hadn't happened, they 'wouldn't have even realized' they were heading down the wrong path.

Thus, giving up on discussion and resorting to other means can sometimes be important. If you intend to resolve something through discussion, you should question yourself whether it's worth spending a corresponding amount of time and effort on the other party, and whether you yourself are prepared to see that discussion through. If you ultimately believe you can resolve it through discussion, then it might be worth discussing.

I also wanted to believe at first that it could be resolved through discussion... But truly uncommunicative people do exist. Perhaps it was my own lack of ability, but I can't help but think, 'If only I'm the one trying hard to discuss...'